I was tagged in this Facebook post today and it got me thinking…is there power in forgiving assholes?
Her point regarding the energy required to “hold on to anger” stood out most to me. It’s true.
I’ve had thoughts swirling around my head day and night since my abandonment, most of which include phrases and dialogue that could have possibly “fixed” the assholes in my life.
Because, you know, that is my M.O. I fix things. I do the work to fix things. I do the research, sweat equity, and investment to fix and help and assist and, and…
But, now that I think of it…could that be why assholes appear in my life? Afterall, I do all the good work for them. Did I, in fact, enable their asshole-ish behavior? Were my boundaries never clear enough? Did I not have the same convictions I would have had with a complete stranger? Does my giving nature open the door to be exploited by assholes?
Does it really matter?
Whatever the strategy, an asshole is an asshole. Whatever the intention or agenda, still an asshole. I can’t fix that. And, as I grow stronger, I will not continue to invest in asshole life. Forget that noise.
But, the real question remains…can I forgive the behavior altogether? This video offers some guidance on that, so it’s definitely something to consider.
I am not ready today.